“Women run the world you just don’t know it” Shaq O’neale

So even though you’re reading this in July 2025, I’m writing this in June 2025 and it has been a wild time on social media of late.

In the spiritual community you have Aubrey Marcus deciding that he wants to be polyamorous with his wife and a 28-year-old lady and this has come as a huge shock to some in the spiritual community as he ended his previous relationship before his wife, because it was Polyamorous and when he met his wife, she only wanted exclusivity and he promised her that and then went on to marry her two months later. Five years later Aubrey has claimed that the goddess Isis told him to take another woman alongside his wife.

Then on the other side of social media where women are choosing themselves, (you’d like to think that) you have wizard Liz who found out after four months pregnant that her fiance was cheating on her. 

Even though these are two very different communities both audiences are blaming the man. Boring!! I know hear me out before you roll your eyes and call me a pickmeisha….. 

Why men mirror women’s energy

Has Aubrey dishonoured his wife? Yes, 

Did  Wizard Liz’s fiance dishonour her? Yes 

Both were publicly humiliated however we as women need to look within. These men are mirroring the women they’re in union with. On a deeper level. These men are mirroring us collectively as a whole.

Despite what society has constructed, the natural order is this:  women lead and men follow. 

If a man has neglected you and or dishonoured you the question that needs to be asked as a woman is where have I neglected and dishonoured myself? 

We as women have been dishonouring ourselves for centuries. Women are quick to give away their power for a man who is doing slightly better than the average Joe all because we don’t want to be alone or want to be loved or because we’ve never experienced being treated slightly better than the average Joe by a man before.

And it’s in every facet of the woman.

Why do I attract a certain type of people?

You see this online. You have the black women falling over any white man that will look their way and it’s so embarrassing LOL.

You have the white women fawning over any man that speaks up for women and this man is clearly grifting like the white men pandering to black women so they can increase their following and their money on social media. Roll eyes.

Or a man stating that one race of women is his preference then you get another race of women trying to prove to this one man why their race is equally attractive. Like why are you putting any effort into trying to gain a man’s approval?

Then you’ve got the sprinkle sprinkle women and the majority of them wouldn’t be able to tell if a man was a walking red flag even if he came with a big old neon sign saying I’m a walking red flag.

Men keep getting away with their bullshit because women are failing to honour themselves in the first place. 

And when I say honour I don’t mean the superficial stuff like clothes, make up, hair weaves etc. I mean looking at yourself and knowing that you are a precious gem and treating yourself as such. 

That could look like something as basic as eating right and eliminating processed food from your diet and exercising not just for the aesthetic but because you want to be strong and healthy. 

Looking at your habits and seeing which ones are holding you back and then eliminating them. 

On a deeper level, going to therapy and being the one to break your family toxic generational cycles which then goes on to you really seeing yourself, your worth and creating a life that you never want to run from. Creating a life you love waking up to. This results in your standards being so high that most men would not approach you and your dating experiences will be of a high calibre because even though those in the dating pool will be few there’d be no feces in it. Just highly vibrational people who understand that the way to happiness, peace and real change is to look within and to do the inner work. 

How are relationships a mirror?

Now such men are rare but not impossible. Deep down women know this but because they have low self esteem,  you lower your standards and then get mad at the man you lowered your standards for when he behaves in the low standard settings. You’re expecting peasants to act as Kings, without realising you’ve been treating yourself as a peasant all along. And he has been mirroring your actions… 

The inner work is all about facing yourself, the one who stands in the light and the one who stands in the dark and honouring both of them and integrating them. You integrate them because you start liking and loving your light and darkness. 

We are all each other’s reflection, because we’re all connected. 

How to deal with people who trigger you?

When I came across Aubrey and Wizard Liz’s story a few things rang through my mind. 

1. I’m not sure how people couldn’t see that Aubrey is running from himself. It’s painfully obvious when you do the inner work, you’ll start seeing people straight away. However once again the people and in this case the spiritual community are still looking outside of themselves to find a leader, guru, GOD. Avoiding themselves. This disappointment could have been avoided if they too weren’t running from themselves and learnt to be the guru of their own lives. 
2. I felt sorry for all the women involved; Wizard Liz, Vlanya Aubrey‘s wife and Aubrey‘s girlfriend, and I hoped all 3 women came to honour themselves and take back their power. 
3.  Finally I was like these two stories have come on my timeline for a reason then it hit me,  they’re mirroring me too, so I asked myself the question: where am I dishonouring myself as a woman?

And that is such a powerful question that it allowed me to break free from some of my habits such as being chronically online so I’ve reduced my social media to only 30 minutes a day and it has made a huge difference in my life. I’m on day three at the moment and I’ve already finished a novel and I’ve written this blog post all in one go. 

Most importantly I realise that I was using social media to block my creative gifts because I’m scared of my own power so even though both stories have not been great I’m thankful for Aubrey and Wizard Liz for being transparent in their shortcomings, even if they don’t know it is their shortcomings because it helped me recognise my own and work through them. 

And this is how us as women will change the world, by looking within and changing the inside in order for the outside to change. 

Men have always mirrored us because they came from us. 

Because the woman is God.

Where have you been dishonouring yourself?

Sage x

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